A Cult is a Cult is a Cult#
by Melody Brooke, MA, Conflict Coach, Motivational Speaker

Cult Abuse of Chlldren

What might have happened if the mothers and children of the Branch Davidians had been captured instead of slaughtered that day in April, 1995?  Would it have been that different than what is happening today? A cult that uses women and children as their sex slaves in the name of religion is one that cannot be allowed to continue. 

What they are brought up to believe

Yet the children, male and female alike, in this bizarre sect have all been brought up to believe in their  “faith” s as a natural, precious, and fundamental part of what it is to be a human being.   They go about their lives believing, as they have for generations, that this is truth and the way to God’s Kingdom.  Each and every one of them is raised to accept this view of themselves and others.  They each believe in what they were conditioned to believe since birth.  Their accepted worldview rejects or technology, and our modern ways and the knowledge of psychology and the acquired wisdoms of the past 150 years.  Ignorance was their choice.  It is always the way of cults in general. Outside knowledge of other’s beliefs is not only discouraged but punished.  No new knowledge can be allowed into the closed system because new knowledge would destroy the system.

Who is going to be prosecuted?

Do you prosecute the women who were brought up to believe that marrying off your children to much older men is acceptable? Do you prosecute these same women for abandoning their young sons that were thrown out of their “families” because there were too many of them? Do your prosecute the men, who were brought up to believe it is their rightful place to have many young wives and force them to have sex with them as they please?

Clearly Criminal

Clearly all of the above constitute legal abuse and crimes that are normally punishable by law. Yet what happens when we begin to view this case as a case of programming, not unlike that of Patty Hearst?  All of the members of this sect were programmed from birth to see their lifestyle as the only choice acceptable by God as they understand him.

Is it our role as a legal community to imprison them for their crimes, as we did Patty Hearst, or is our responsibility to them something entirely different? What if we could view them not as perpetrators of horrors upon innocent victims, but as victims themselves worthy of our compassion? 

The Travesty

Some people already are seeing the travesty that is likely to occur to these people and have been protesting outside the courtrooms where we attempt to find “justice” for those our courts are attempting to protect.  Unfortunately there are no “bad guys” here to prosecute.  The system was the problem, not the people involved.  All of these people were caught up in a system that was dangerous and just plain wrong.  But there are no bad guys are there?

A different perspective

It changes everything when you try to look a situation from the prospective of compassion rather than the old egocentric view of seeing everyone as a good guy, a bad guy or a victim.  When we impose our legal system on these people by prosecuting them for doing what they earnestly believed was the righteous way of living, we become what our forefathers fought against.  We as a community become the perpetrators by prosecuting this group for their religious practices. 

Clearly abuse is abuse

But what they were doing to their children was wrong. There is no question about that is there? Raping children of the age of 12 or 14, abandoning children (boys) who were not going to be useful in continuing their patterns of multiple marriages to one male is all wrong.  Morally and ethically we cannot let it continue, but we have to stop it in a way that does not make anyone a criminal. 

Practicing Empathy

We have to put ourselves in their shoes and practice empathy for their situation.  There are those in our culture (among whom I count myself) who oppose the everyday practice of circumcision as genital mutilation of our baby boys.  It’s as wrong as the genital mutilation of girls that we have outlawed in this country, even when practiced for religious reasons.  Yet we continue to practice this primitive mutilation of baby boys on a daily basis all across our nation.  It’s okay to do it to boys, but not to girls.  I don’t get that at all. 

When we consider that the practice of genitally mutilating boys is a natural normal practice in our culture, it makes it hard not to step into the shoes of a cult that sees raping 12-14 year old girls as a natural and normal practice in theirs. 

It changes everything when we begin to have empathy for their beliefs and understand that, like us, they have been brought up in a culture which finds some very bizarre practices to be normal and natural. 

What do you think?

Is there a difference between taking innocent babies and mutilating their genitals and taking a 12-13 year old girl into a forced marriage and raping them? Can you find empathy for their strange beliefs or do you see them as a sick, perverted culture that needs to be punished? Tell me what you think. Comment below

Friday, April 25, 2008 8:31:34 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00) #    Comments [5]  | 
Saturday, April 26, 2008 10:00:25 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00)

I'm not sure that the "were they just programed, thus not responsible for their actions" is a stance that ultimatly holds up when it comes to certain classes of behaviors. At some point in the game we are responsible to our gifts as thinking human beings, I think. There needs to be a line beyond which "I was just following orders" or " I was programed to think this" does not absolve us. Our place within the larger family of man would seem to demand it. Our implicit acceptance of the rules of democracy would seem to call for it as well.

Whether circumcision falls into that class of behavior is open to question, while the idea of plural marriage and the impregnation of 13-14 year olds seems considerably less so. I believe that somewhere along the line our assumed stance as thinking humans holds us to the principal of "I should have known this was wrong." All civilized human societies develop, by consensus, codes of laws as a means of affirming this responsiblity.

In the case of plural marriage it would seem to be a simple matter of doing the math. If one man has many wives, then many men will have no wife. The tyranny inherant in that equasion should press a button in any thinking human being. Being "programed" would not seem an excuse when the facts and nature of the tyranny are this obvious, and various criminal trials throughout modern history would seem to uphold this idea.

While there remain a number of serious gray areas in this unfortunate situation, the idea that "strange beliefs" justify tyranny would seem to hold little water in a society where our legal, if not moral, comittment to fairness and justice is no secret. Many will be harmed; there seems no way around that, and yet I believe that in the end the responsiblity lies with those tyrranical indivduals who, as men living on American soil, had an even larger responsibility as thinking human beings to have known better.

Robert Johnson
Saturday, April 26, 2008 12:34:09 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00)
I never said they were not responsible! What I said is that we should have empathy for the fact that this is what they were programmed from birth to believe. Just like with circumcision we are programmed to believe that it's a natural thing, they have been programmed to believe that plural marriages to children is a natural thing. The wrongness of both is clear, but we as a culture accept one but not the other. Why would circumcision, which is genital mutilation of infant children, be any more "open to question"? My point is only that "strange beliefs" can not seem so strange to those in the middle of the system, even such as ourselves in the case of circumcision. None of this is at all to "justify the tyranny" only to explain the reality of what it is like to be programmed from birth to believe in certain things that from outside the system, "thinking men" can see is clearly wrong. The only reason you think that circumcision is "open to question" is that it is an accepted part of our culture that has generally been unquestioned, as despicable a behavior as it is.

My argument is only that we must have empathy, not that it "justifies" anything!
Thank you so much for your comments!
Monday, April 28, 2008 8:43:38 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00)
I can accept some of what you say about being brought up in a situation where varous things are accepted as right. However, if a person suspects that they are....well....taking advantage of a situation that a part of themselves may suspect is unfair or abusive, then all bets are off.

I suspect that some of these men had to know that they were taking advantage of "tradition" and exerting their power in ways that might indeed be unfair or abusive, even if others in their group seemed willing to conform to it. In fact, I suspect that the ultimate authority for what they were doing came from other men (the elders?) who were, not coincidentaly, doing the same.

My empathy goes out the window for them if they had an idea that, despite tradition, some of what they were doing might not be right.

Others who looked to them for guidance, I do have total sympathy for them. Look at the situation they now find themselves in.

It's the leaders who.....may not deserve empathy here. Leadership by definition involves power, and I think it's legitimate to question the level of self-interest that was ultimately at play in the application of that power.

Robert Johnson
Tuesday, April 29, 2008 6:43:49 AM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00)
I know its difficult to stretch to feel empathy for those in power. But when those in power were put there by the people who raised them to be in that position, they were groomed, shall we say, even "programmed" to be in that position they never really had any choice but to accept that position as their responsibility. Some parts of any one in the cult may have sensed the wrongness of it but to survive they had to split off awareness of that wrongness in order to survive living in that environment. Even the leaders. I've seen this time and time again with my dissociative clients who where programmed from birth to fulfill a certain position in their families cult. Yes, in spite of how it would appear, they too deserve our empathy. It doesn't mean what they had to do was right.
Thank you so much for reading, thinking about, and responding to my blogs!
Tuesday, April 29, 2008 4:12:42 PM (Central Standard Time, UTC-06:00)

"...Thank you so much for reading, thinking about, and responding to my blogs..."

Melody, if you were not asking interesting questions, I would not be responding. Both of us are reciprocally opinionated victims of our active minds I suspect. ;-)

It would be great if we could drag some others into these conversations. The topics you bring forward are worthy ones.
Robert Johnson
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